As part of the progression of dementia my Mom's stories are getting jumpled, it's been happening for about over a year maybe two but there's nothing I can do then to go along with it. The other day we went to a restaurant and someone had placed a sticker with the word "Elvis" on it, I was expecting what came out of her mouth next.
She smiled and said "I had a boyfriend once named Elvis, all the girls were after him, he had prettiest eyes." I know all of her past boyfriends. She continued that he was an a very popular signer and I knew she was getting Elvis Prestly confused as one of her past friends. I let her keep talking about her "boyfriend Elvis" it was one of the times I just looked at her and she looked like she was so far away from me. Her body is the one of my Mom but I'm loosing her slowly but in that moment she was so happy to talk about her "boyfriend Elvis" so I went along with the story let her tell me how he made her feel (a child should never hear that from a parent, just saying) but I let her go on and on and I smiled and told her she was very lucky. Ahhh Alzheimer's you are the biggest thief out there.
Thursday, March 31, 2016
Sunday, March 27, 2016
Easter 2016
It's been a while since I blogged on our journey with Alzheimer's and if any caregivers are out there you know there isn't much time to blog but I have been keeping a journal and will be entering them more on a regular basis.
This Easter I did something different, instead of going to the whole family Easter gathering which would have been too overwhelming for my Mom and instead of me cleaning and cooking for a small gathering with just the immediate family which causes me a lot of stress and energy that I don't have I planned to take my Mom to mass with our family priest that she loves seeing and taking her to a picnic at the Fullerton Arboretum which ended up being the best idea I feel I have ever had. Not only was my Mom excited to see Fr. Phil but she enjoyed the quite picnic and then a walk around the arboretum which got her tired and is now sound asleep.
I know some family members understand, other's don't and I am learning that I can't please everyone and I need to focus what is best and safest for my Mom and her wellbeing and that they are not in my shoes. If they really want to see my Mom, as she always tells me they can come see her anytime they don't have to wait for a holiday or a birthday to think of her. I know she feels it that they don't visit or call her so keeping her busy with "adventures" as she calls them is the best I can do for her.
Happy Easter to All!
This Easter I did something different, instead of going to the whole family Easter gathering which would have been too overwhelming for my Mom and instead of me cleaning and cooking for a small gathering with just the immediate family which causes me a lot of stress and energy that I don't have I planned to take my Mom to mass with our family priest that she loves seeing and taking her to a picnic at the Fullerton Arboretum which ended up being the best idea I feel I have ever had. Not only was my Mom excited to see Fr. Phil but she enjoyed the quite picnic and then a walk around the arboretum which got her tired and is now sound asleep.
I know some family members understand, other's don't and I am learning that I can't please everyone and I need to focus what is best and safest for my Mom and her wellbeing and that they are not in my shoes. If they really want to see my Mom, as she always tells me they can come see her anytime they don't have to wait for a holiday or a birthday to think of her. I know she feels it that they don't visit or call her so keeping her busy with "adventures" as she calls them is the best I can do for her.
Happy Easter to All!
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